Friday, July 1, 2011

TMI Friday: Dear New York

Happy Friday Kiddies!
You know what Fridays' are for, right?

Alright, so I know that typically, TMI Fridays are reserved for gross or embarassing conversation.
Well, this week, I will be "going there" and discussiong something quite controversial.
If you haven't heard already, New York has passed a same-sex marriage bill over the past week.
The following is a letter that I have composed in my mind over and again about these events.

Dear New York:

Recently you passed a bill allowing same-sex couples to marry and have all the rights and priveleges as any heterosexual married couple. This has been called many things from a step toward progress to a step toward damnation for man kind. It is certainly historical, and has brought the word "equality" to a new and unprecedented level.

But I have a delimma, see . . .

My delimma is this. 

As a Christian, I hold dear to Biblical truths and religions writings. And the bible clearly states that same-sex relationships are an "abomination" in the eyes of God. So from that persepctive, the idea of two men or two women together in the "bonds of holy matrimony" bothers me somewhat. 

But on the other hand, as a human, and as a person with many dear friends in the GLT community, I jump for joy at the thought of some of my good friends finally being able to have happiness like mine in a married relationship.

Gay marriage is nothing light to think about, for sure. 

Despite my misgivings, however, I continue to go back to two things.
1) God doesn't make mistakes.
2) We are all sinners, and no one sin is greater than any other in God's eyes.

Therefore, from that perspective, is it really anyone's right to say that two men or two women cannot be married? Certainly, from God's perspective, they are "living sinfully", but so is the gossip next door, the unwed mother, the pastor with a roving eye, the closet pot-smoker . . . These are no less sinful than homosexuality. And God forgives each of them, even before asked.

It is disturbing to me that people in your community would stand up and say that they refuse to sign a marriage document for same-sex couples. What gives them the right to remove a right from someone else? God certainly did not give his children any rights or commands in that manner.

So, to the people of New York, and the people of the rest of the world that are fighting so hard against same-sex marriage, I respond:

God loves each of his children so much that he gave his son in sacrifice for them. He asked for nothing in return, and demands nothing of His children other than their love and devotion. Each of us has wronged God in our own ways, and not one of our actions was any less or greater than any other. Do we have the right to tell someone they can't gossip? No, that would infringe on their freedom of speech. Do we have the right to tell someone they can't think lustful thoughts or have sex before marriage? No, that would infringe on their personal privacy. If we stand up and say that only some people can have a specific right, what's to stop the world from taking away other rights - even our right as Christians to worship the way we see fit.

Rights belong to all people, even to those whose lifestyle we don't agree with.

Yours Sincerely,
SuperMom Jen


courtney said...

Great post, Jen. Insightful, honest, pure...

LOVE YOU, girl!

Laura The Great said...

IMHO, marriage has been used and abused over the years by straight people. People I have known in the Gay/Lesbian community have only considered partnerships when they are sure they are in it for life. They don't enter into the closest thing to marriage that they have as lightly as straight people enter into marriage.
So what if they are living in sin, what does it hurt you to let them? (Not you Jen, You in general.) Some Christians don't drink at all and feel that imbibing the smallest amount is a sin, yet alcohol is still readily available for ADULTS who wish to use it. I say let consenting adults be. The bible also says not to be picking specks out of another's eye when you should be worrying about what is in yours...It's not for us to judge. Judgement is for God alone.

The BabbyMama @ IKHIBF said...

Way to put it!

I think it distills down to it's not the government's job to be God. The government is there to protect society from things damaging to society (theft, etc.), but not sins, per se, or else we'd start seeing a lot more laws. Gay folks and God will find their own peace or not, but it's not the state's job to facilitate that.

Beth Zimmerman said...

Very well put! This is what has disturbed me most about the anti-gay-rights movement among Christians. It seems an obvious opportunity to shut up and remove the planks from our own eyes rather than trying to make sure someone else doesn't have a splinter!